Most college renters are renting for the first time, and apart from the
dorms, living on their own for the first time as well. This departure from
home can cause feelings of loneliness and rootlessness. Living without
roommates can compound these feelings. The freedom of finally living on your
own is exciting and means you get to live however you decide, though there are
occasional times when an apartment will leave you with a feeling of
temporariness, and a feeling that you're not really "home". For times like
these, making your apartment life enjoyable might be as simple as looking at
things in a different light. Here are some quotes from history's great minds
to help you feel more at home in your rental:
"Where thou art - that - is home." Emily Dickinson - If home is
where you are, then make your home a reflection of who you are. Decorate with
items that express your beliefs, emotions and interests. On your next visits
to friends and family ask them to share a few mementos that warm your soul. Go
through old photos and put them in new frames for your apartment. Update your
contact list with mailing addresses, email addresses and phone numbers. Make a
weekly habit of calling at least one person from your list.
"It is a miserable thing to feel ashamed of home." Charles
Dickens - Keep your place clean and inviting, if you don't you'll likely
never feel like inviting anyone over. No one expects your place to be super
fancy, but they do expect not to have to sit on a couch covered in orange
Cheeto dust. Even if you need to shop at a second hand store for mis-matched
furniture, shop and decorate with hospitality and the comfort of others in
mind.
"The ornament of the house is the friends who frequent it." Ralph
Waldo Emerson - Learn new skills to help you feel more comfortable
entertaining in your home. A cooking class or wine tasting event can not only
introduce you to more people, but give you pointers on easy foods to make and
drinks to serve as well as giving you new topics of conversation. Start
collecting recipes and party ideas from magazines, books, TV shows and the
Internet.
"The dog is a lion in his own house." A Persian proverb -
Decorate with what makes you feel most at home. Your first apartment is a
great opportunity to experiment with different ways to express yourself and
explore your interests. Decorate in your school's colors, or with exotic
objects from another culture that you want to learn more about. Your apartment
can be yet another way that you can learn more about who you are and what you
want out of life.
"The most fortunate of men, be he king or commoner, is he whose welfare
is assured in his own home." Goethe - Take care of the basics so that
you can enjoy your home. That means watching your finances, keeping your bills
paid and your debt under control. Your safety is important too. Make sure your
doors and windows lock and let your property owner know if the path to your
door needs better lighting. Getting to know your neighbors is a good idea
too.
"Let a man behave in his own house as a guest." Ralph Waldo
Emerson - Treat your place with respect. Set a regular schedule to clean
and put your dishes away after eating. Get rid of clutter. Even if you are
living alone, treat your place as if you aren't. Easier said then done, but
worth the effort.
"Tis ever common that men are merriest when they are from home."
Shakespeare - Get outside when you're feeling down. Breathe the fresh
air, listen to some music, head to a coffee shop for a latte and some light
reading. Volunteer some of your time to a worthy cause.